Sunday, October 20, 2013

Creating Balance : (So, What's Your Sign?)

by Christian Flint

Over the years I have been somewhat interested in Astrology.  One of the most convincing arguments for me in believing more in Astrology was when I came across the standard (and seemingly reliable) definition of Libra, which is the star sign I belong to.  I found upon researching extensively that I am true in traits and style to the Libra characteristics.  It was uncomfortably accurate.

When most non-believers in Astrology read the various 12 star signs, they often conclude that any one of the definitions of characteristics and traits can belong to anyone.  They view it as though each definition is all-encompassing and could be considered accurate for all other signs.  While it is true, some star signs share some characteristics and traits with others, I maintain there is certainly some reliability and validity to the Astrology theory.

While there are many books by reliable and semi-reliable authors on the subject matter of Astrology, there still are solid historical records that have been standards for hundreds and even thousands of years.  The more historical the archive, generally the more accurate the information, in my findings. 
I certainly have never pushed my beliefs on anyone.  And most certainly, I have never tried to convince anyone that Astrology is perfectly reliable and accurate as a science necessarily.  But, I have brought about people's attention to their sign and the standard traits that are supposed to match.  I have been intrigued as I go through my family members and friends, noting their birthdates and how they certainly do often represent their respective star sign. 

Also, one must know that "traits" and "characteristics" are different than personalities.  One of the first things we must understand about Astrology is that it is not attempting to define a persons "personality".  It is much more accurate in defining the traits and characteristics of that person.  Once you understand that difference, it is usually easier to see the correlations.

For instance, a person might be an extrovert.  We might see them with a bubbly personality that often says things that only others might be thinking.  This is more of a personality style, than "traits" of the person. 

I have been able to see the traits and characteristics of people with the same star sign, while one was an extreme introvert and another (born two days apart) was an extreme extrovert.  To the common skeptic, the personality differences alone would cause them to cry "foul" on Astrology in general.  However, when I closely compared these two individuals' traits, they were surprisingly the same.  Both were clever, witty, charming, quick learners, slow to anger, devious (at times), stubborn, moody, calculating as well as many other traits and characteristics in common.  While these traits may have some impact on their personalities, it was not the cause of their personalities.  I am hoping now you can recognize more of the difference.

I told you all of that, to tell you this.......

As a Libra, our star symbol is the "scales".  We represent "balance".   And, it is true in fact, that when I am around other people, I often try to "balance" the conversation.  When amongst people arguing or disagreeing, I try to neutralize the disagreement and bring a peace and compromise between them.  When I investigate most anything, I tend to look at both sides of the argument; this includes politics, religion, business, and most anything that tends to have extremist views.  As well, I often put myself in other people's shoes, when considering their predicament or situation, before giving advice or possibly judging them unduly.  This is not intentional. This is truly a subconscious reaction and interaction on my part.  It tends to be innate and inherent in my traits and characteristics.  I was not raised to feel, believe or act this way.  But, I do.

As with any star sign, if you grow up with ONLY your personal traits and characteristics, you only know and understand those particular traits and characteristics which indwell in YOU.  Of course, to you, they will seem logical. They will seem rational.  This would make sense, as we see such extreme diversity in people, not only in our world, but even in our own neighborhoods.  One needs to look no further than social forums such as Twitter and Facebook these days, to see a strong diversity of opinions and personal preferences. 

And, when we do view these preferences and opinions of others, we often wonder how they could have ever reasoned their way through life to come to such unique and / or ignorant views and ideas (especially in todays world of extreme politics and religion).  By and large, Astrology could also explain why we do have such diversity of opinions and reasoning.  Even two people might have the exact same experience, but walk away with two different accounts of what happened.  Also, two people can hear the President of the United States speak, and walk away with two extremely different polarized opinions and interpretations of that exact same speech. 

Why is it that humans can be so incredibly diverse in their nature and views?  How is it that two humans can have totally different reactions even while receiving the exact same stimulus??

Answering these questions have been a part of my life for a long time.  As a Body / Mind Re-Educator, I often encounter people who are wrought with anxiety and problems: problems that often would not seemingly affect or harm other people.  And, it is my job to help them find resolution and / or solutions to those problems.

Also, I have the responsibility of creating self help products and therapeutic modalities that are developed to help most of the people, most of the time.  In handling this challenge, I have learned much more about human diversity.  It was a hurdle I never realized would be such a challenge when I first entered the professions in which I am involved.  And actually, this "hurdle" can often be a mountain of problems when I am working with a group of individuals and need to maintain a common ground with them to facilitate learning and change.

For the sake of creation, teamwork, understanding, professionalism and reaching goals, diversity amongst individuals can often be a good thing.  But, when it comes to bringing people together for social importance, responsible advocacy and accountability, diversity in humans and their unique reasoning can often become more harm than good.   This is much like our country today.  Instead of coming together to work on problems, Americans sub-group together only to blame others for the problems that our country and even our culture is suffering through.  Our country and culture now seems to be much more about blaming and anger than about finding solutions and working together for a greater good.

Again, I point out, that there must be a cause for such isolation of individual thinking as well as extremist polarizations and views of groups and sub-groups.

I use the previous sentence to make a point of how, even in desperate times, humans tend to hold on to their own hard-core perspectives, without opening their minds to any other thought or explanation, other than what they were brought up to believe / think.   As well, all of their life experiences somehow gets "filtered" into their own personalized unique ideology.  And, and anyone that challenges their belief or opinion only makes that particular human more entrained, loyal and committed to their personalized viewpoint, regardless of the logic, facts and reasoning presented that can dispel or disqualify their specialized point of view.

Is this mental deficiency?  Or, is this just human nature?  IS this normal?  Should this be normal?  At what point did personal opinion take precedence over facts, logical and rational thought?
As you can probably relate, you know of people in your own life now, that often cling to their own personal belief systems, even though there is no sane or logical reason for it.  As a society, we accept them.  In some cases, we feed their dysfunction and even give respect for their "freedoms" of opinion.

So, now we reach my dilemma.  Welcome to my world of research and work.  I develop and create self help products, do consultation and teach personal empowerment to people from all walks of life.
 And, as a "Libra", I find it validating and rewarding to help anyone overcome the obstacles that hold them back from achieving their goals and dreams.  I accept people from all walks of life.  And, I have learned even moreso to appreciate the diversity of the individuals of which I work.   And, creating happiness, satisfaction, improvement and "balance" in a persons life, is my primary duty.... and passion.

Until next time....................

Wednesday, June 5, 2013

What is the Meaning of Life??

by Christian Flint

From the HypnoTherapist's Couch

I recently began working with a new client.  As usual, I ask all new clients to fill out a questionnaire that describes goals they would like to achieve as well as any issues they may want to overcome.  Once we were on the phone for the first time, I noted to her that she had a large list of Goals. I asked her to be more specific and prioritize.

She laughed nervously and thought for a minute.  After a few moments, I rephrased my question more so and asked.  "If we had to tackle one problem or answer one question in your life right now, what would it be?"  Again with a nervous laugh, she immediately responded, "What is the meaning of life!?"
 
Certainly, her question was rhetorical and facetious, but I was happy she asked.  As this would be the starting point for what work we would do together. 

This is not the first time this question has been presented to me.  As well, it has been asked of me many times with different intent and purpose.  And, for years, it perplexed me like it does most people. 

But, as I have gotten older and wiser, I have dealt with a myriad of human complexities.  I have dealt with many people who have "lost their way in life".  That is often a reason why people turn to me.  And, it is best to hear answers and new ideas from someone who is objective and with a fresh perspective.

My client was surprised that I had an answer ready for her. 

I revealed to her that the "Meaning of Life" is not in a question.  It is more about what we will do with our life.  You see, the Meaning of Life is more about what meaning that we give our life.  We often search fruitlessly through life, trying to understand "why we are here" and what is life really about.  But, after observing humans and what we can accomplish within our lifespan, I truly believe that we are wasting time waiting for an "Answer".

You have the answer.  You ARE the answer.  It is up to you to give meaning TO your own life.  It is up to you to embrace what you have and what you have been given.  It is up to you to grow yourself.  Much like a plant, we cannot grow without being planted firmly in nutritious soil, getting fresh water regularly and healthy sunlight.  I doubt a plant ponders its own existence.  But, a plant wastes no time in absorbing rich nutrients from the soil, soaking up the fresh water and basking in what sunlight is offered. 

It is up to us to enrich ourselves.  It is up to us to make decisions and move forward.  If we sit and wait for arbitrary answers to questions like these in life, then we spend our time waiting and not "doing". 

After a few sessions with this client, I finally had her do a homework assignment that I sometimes ask of clients who are struggling with identity issues.  I asked her to write her own obituary and describe her life in a way that she would be happy to live and fulfill. 
 
I'll share with you what she wrote (by permission): 

 
"Here lies before you the body of Sharon (omitted).  She had three lovely children which she poured her heart and soul into for the first part of her life.  After pondering and searching for the meaning of life for the first half, she finally discovered that it was up to her to give her life meaning for the second half.  She realized that life is much more fulfilling when we stop waiting for answers, and just start living.  She realized living in fear and worry is a slow and painful death.  So, she chose to live everyday as a new beginning.  Sharon learned that she needed to be good for herself before she could be good for anyone else.  Learning that she can help herself and love herself was the greatest gift she ever received."


You see, everyone is on their own journey in life.  Sometimes we can get sidetracked.  Sometimes we reach one destination, only to set another course for a new goal.  And, sometimes we never really got started on that journey in the first place.  We can never reach our destinations until we take the first step.   
 
Certainly, we are not done with my client's goals.  But, this is a great start in understanding one of the most important questions we ask ourselves in life.  We can choose to wait for an answer, or we can just start living.  The choice is yours.

It's time for a cigar....  and, until next time.

"Design Your Mind" 

www.MindDesignUnlimited.com

Friday, May 24, 2013

Remembering Pioneers of Hypnosis

Mr. Earl J. Yawman, Master Clinical Hypnotherapist               
                                                                                             1924 - 2012

Age 88, of Jasper, GA died Tuesday, July 3, 2012 at his residence, following a period of declining health. Born July 3, 1924.

Mr. Yawman was the Founder of the Central Florida Hypnosis Institute.  He went further on to found the Florida Association of Hypnotists. He was also the recipient of the Certified Instructor of the Year Award by the National Guild of Hypnotists in 1996.
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Within my 25+  years of working in the hypnosis field, I have met many amazing practitioners.  I have learned so much from many of them.  Mr. Earl Yawman was no exception.  Mr. Yawman actually became a Certified Practitioner of Hypnosis around the same time I did.  He came into the field late in his game.  But, he brought a wealth of knowledge with him from a strong business and financial background. 
Some of his former professional experience included Territorial Sales for Exxon Corporation, being a Dale Carnegie Sponsor as well as working (and then retiring) in Florida as a former Account Executive and VP for Merrill Lynch (1974 - 1991).   Mr. Yawman had exceptional business skills.  We would spend hours sometimes talking about the psychology of sales and NLP (NeuroLinguistic Programming).  He became even more skilled in the concepts, development and design of sales upon learning more about NLP.  I was fortunate to observe and learn from his personal growth.

Shortly after his retirement from Merrill Lynch (1991) he approached me about making his first hypnosis recording.  He was quite excited as it would be in part, a culmination of his knowledge and experience within the business world, while meeting the current stress needs of the client.  As well, he wanted it to be a pioneering work that would precede and represent him well in his future endeavors in the field and practice of hypnosis.

Still being young and developing my own practice, I accepted his challenge.  My fledgling recording studio then (The Finest Workshop) was based in a one-car garage nestled under my townhouse. It was just a stone's throw away from the UCF campus and six miles from (what is now) Full Sail University.  The area was loud with local college kids who generally created as much unnecessary noise as Kindergarten children do, following recess.  My initial challenge, as always, was to keep the recording environment as quiet as possible (no extraneous noise) as well as to set the tone of relaxation and focus for Earl to generate his best performance.
I was quite surprised that a man with such hypnosis inexperience at the time, could be such a powerful presence on the microphone as well as produce such a strong caliber and tone for inducing relaxation.   It did not take long to realize that we made a good team and we both seemed to be in complete creative agreement as the recording and production progressed.

It took almost two weeks for his script writing as well as my creating a musical composition that we felt worked well to fit the recording.  It was also one of my first attempts at creating "Subliminal Reinforcement" on a recording.  While our age differences was considerable, it was a great experience to work with Earl. 
 

I still appreciate his complete trust and faith in me to engineer, record, and produce his first recording as well as create a musical composition that will live on as his initial pioneering work. 
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"Experience Hypnosis" with Earl Yawman (1992) is a great display of hypnotic enhancement that builds confidence, self esteem and personal power.  The script is powerful and guides the listener into a deep trance state only to construct an effective foundation for a rejuvenated and revitalized sense of self.   Earl's voice and pacing proves that he was born to do this creative and therapeutic style of hypnotic performance and seasoned level of work.

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While my hypnosis style was and still is a more modernized approach, Earl represents a highly respected breed of classical hypnotists that got it right.  Their slow, methodical technique and pacing is an undisputed skill that few hypnotists have acquired.  Many hypnotists work many years to develop and create a style and presence as natural as Earl Yawman was gifted with. 

This is my dedication to Mr. Earl John Yawman.  He was an extraordinary teacher to many.  He also was a great technician that truly took the time and dedication to learn and develop his craft.  We need more like him. 
 
I would also like to point out, that it is never too late to begin a whole new path or career in our life.  Earl was well in his 60s when he retired from Financial Services and Money Management.  Yet, he dreamed up a whole new life and career that carried him through another 20 + years.  If Earl could look back on his life, I firmly believe he would say he was as excited about his life and career in Hypnosis as much as any other point in his life.  You see, we can still "learn" from him, even through this day.
 
R.I.P.    Earl Yawman    (1924 - 2012) 
 
Your Friend,
 
Christian Flint
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I plan to post the photos of the J-card cassette (yes, cassettes - it was 1992 remember?) alongside this post soon.  If you have this recording, you are enriched.  And, you will probably attest to every word (and more) that I am able to describe Mr. Earl Yawman.